Quote of the Day


“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” -Oprah Winfrey

Don’t let the little things in life get in your way of living life!


32 of the Most Important Characteristics of the Most Successful People

 Do you want to be successful in everything you do?  Well below is your secret to success!  Personally, I printed these characteristics and taped them to my mirror so I can read them every morning.  If you looking for success in any area of your life, I suggest you adopt all 32 of these characteristics and you will SUCCEED!!

  1. Have a “Can-Do” Attitude– approach every situation with the outlook that no matter what, it can be done
  2. Believe That I Will Work It Out– refers to individuals looking to be responsible and solve a problem
  3. Successful People Focus on Opportunity– see all situations, even problems and complaints as opportunities
  4. Successful People Love Challenges– compelled and invigorated by challenges
  5. Seek to Solve Problems– know that every problem is universal in one way or another
  6. Successful People Persist Until Successful– ability to persist on a given path regardless of setbacks, unexpected events, bad news and resistance and continues steadfastly or firmly in some course of action despite of condition
  7. Take Risks– you’re going to have to put something on the line to get a get a return; successful are willing to take risks
  8. Be Unreasonable– requires that you act without rational consideration and not in accordance with realities
  9. Be Dangerous– being careful requires you to take actions cautiously; absolutely no way you will hit 10X levels or 10X goals by being cautious
  10. Create Wealth– attitude toward wealth and creation of wealth is an especially significant distinction between financially successful and the unsuccessful
  11. Readily Take Action– highly successful take unbelievable amounts of action regardless of what that actually looks like, these people rarely do nothing
  12. Always Say Yes– successful people do this not because they can, but they choose to say yes
  13. Habitually Commit– successful fully and consistently commit to activities, some of which require to put all of it on the line
  14. Go All The Way– “half measures availed us nothing” in terms of no results except retiring person engaging in ½ measures
  15. Focus on NOW– only two times for the successful; now and the future
  16. Demonstrate Courage– quality of mind and spirit that propels people to face dangerous situations in spite of fear
  17. Successful People Embrace Change– love change; always look for ways to improve what you are doing successfully
  18. Determine and Take the Right Approach– successful know they can quantify what does and does not work
  19. Successful People Break Traditional Ideas– challenge traditions to get to another place
  20. Be Goal Oriented
  21. Be On A Mission– successful people approach their activities as if on a religious mission
  22. Have a High Level of Motivation
  23. Be Interested in Results– successful people value results
  24. Have Big Goals and Big Dreams– How big are your goals and dreams?!
  25. Create Your Own Reality– bent on creating a new reality for themselves and others that is so different from what others suggest as possible
  26. Commit First, Figure Out Later– get rid of mechanics and take action
  27. Be Highly Ethical– requires you do things you told yourself and others you would do and in doing so until you get results
  28. Be Interested in the Group– you can only do as well as the people around you, sooner or later you will be afflicted by those around you
  29. Be Dedicated to Continuous Learning
  30. Be Uncomfortable– willing to put yourself in uncomfortable situations
  31. Reach Up in Relationships– surround yourself with great people, better than me
  32. Be Disciplined– to attain and achieve success, you need to determine which habits are constructive, and then discipline both yourself and your group to do those things over and over again until it becomes a discipline

If I Were A Boy…

I don’t know about you, but I definitely feel boys have an easier time than us ladies.  They have less to worry about and some lead such free, relaxing lives.  Okay, maybe I’m a little jealous, but can you blame me?  Here is a list, some just added to exaggerate the “ideal man lifestyle,” of some of the things I would do differently if I were a boy…If you have any to add to the list, please comment!  I’m excited to see what can be added to the list!

  1. I would be able to take the world’s quickest showers…like seriously, did I even wet my entire body??
  2. I wouldn’t have to dry my hair.  Run a towel through it and if that’s too much, I could always be bald.  NO SHEDDING!!

    Bald is Beautiful

    Bald is Beautiful

  3. All I would need is a pair of khakis and a pair of jeans to complete my wardrobe.
  4. I would not have to worry about makeup and all the time that takes.  Going with the all-natural look 🙂
  5. I’d only need to shave my face (possibly chest) if I was unfortunate and quite hairy Steve Carrel
  6. I’d be considered a god if I am athletic

    He is the champ and gets the girl!

    He is the champ and gets the    girl!

  7. Let’s face it, guys aren’t a part of cliques…must be nice

    Sexually Active Band Geeks Anyone??

    Sexually Active Band Geeks Anyone??

  8. I wouldn’t buy into the gossip
  9. I could wake up 20 min before I had to leave (and that’s waking up early)

10. My mom would spoil me, doing my laundry, cleaning my room, and doing other chores that I am apparently “incapable” of learningKitty Forman

11. I would not have the urge to stalk my crushes through social media

12. It would be perfectly acceptable to sleep until noon and get up and play video games for another three hours

What A Life...

What A Life…

13. I would spend an entire Sunday doing nothing but watching football

14. I’d be picked first for dodge ball in gym class

Can't Touch This!!

Can’t Touch This!!

15. I’d drink beer everyday and not give a damn that I feel bloated

16. I would be praised by my bros for texting more than one hottie

17. I’d join every fantasy league…EVER!

18. I’d boast about how well each of my fantasy teams are doing…at least 5 times daily

19. I’d watch SportsCenter and all the reruns afterwards…just in case anything has changed in the past hour…Sportscenter

20. I’d eat as many wings as I want and look like a slob eating them without caring one bit

21. I’d fart regardless of who is in my presence

22. I’d salivate at the mailman until my Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition arrived

23. I’d do a cannonball into every pool I could

Cutest Kid Ever!!

Cutest Kid Ever!!

24. I’d take my shirt off every opportunity I get

Sigh...I would still be in love with him even if I were a boy...

Sigh…I would still be in love with him even if I were a boy…

25. Everything I said would be right (okay, okay, maybe this goes for whether I was a boy or a girl)

Feel free to keep the list going with what you would do if you were a guy instead of a woman!  Be funny, get creative, and keep it pretty clean please!

The Evils of Society

The situation: A three year old little girl claims she wants to be a doctor when she grows up, but her brothers, the oldest of them 11 years old, try to correct the young girl and tell her she wants to be a nurse when she grows up.  What causes these children to form these gender role opinions?  I believe the main evil influencing young children to shape their gender expectations is our society.

Imagine being a young child…I’m talking before kindergarten here.  What did you want to be?  What did you enjoy doing?  Were there any obstacles to achieving your dreams?  If you were anything like myself, then you understand what I’m talking about.  Children change what they want to be when they grow up daily, if not hourly.  Their future is not motivated by money, status, politics, etc.  Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it?

Now imagine yourself as a child attending grade school for a few years.  Suddenly, you want your mom to buy the same pair of uggs that everyyyboddyy but you owns.  You want to buy lunch at school because “all the cool kids do.”  These two generic examples sum my point up quite nicely: as you become socialized, you lose an innate, no-boundaries mindset that allows you to dream infinitely and boast about your dreams, no matter how crazy they might sound to others, will come true one day.

We all possess this, what some refer to as “unreasonable” mindset as a young child, but where does it go as we begin to attend school and become part of society?  I don’t think it goes anywhere.  I believe society, primarily in education, sets limits and defines what is “acceptable.”  Society on some levels can be compared to brainwashing.  Society eventually limits our innate drive, creativity, imagination, and persistence we pride ourselves on as young children through phrases such as “That is not realistic” and “Only a limited number of people can achieve that” among others.  The limited numbers of people are those who rise above society’s death grip on their dreams and revert to their limitless childhood mindset.  Those are the people who we ponder “They must be pretty special” or “I wish I was that lucky…”  The fact is, luck has nothing to do with it.  These “special” people refuse to accept defeat, ignore the haters, and set out to do whatever they could possibly imagine despite what anyone says.

Can you imagine a world where everyone truly believed their options were limitless?  Where everything one imagined would become reality?  Where the only expectation is that there are no expectations?  I believe if people learn to ignore society’s judgments (who gives them the right anyway?) many more people would lead a successful life.

Particularly in the United States, society centers on individualism beginning in education.  As a teacher passes a test back, you instantly turn to your neighbor and ask, “What did you get??”  You obsess over looking and acting like the “cool kids” instead of finding your passion and what that one thing you enjoy doing that really makes you happy.  This individual-obsessed mindset eventually develops into the money-obsessed, status-obsessed adults we eventually grow into, whether we want to admit it or not.

I think it is an amazing thing for a young three year old girl to boast she wants to become a doctor.  The idea of telling her she should become a nurse is irrelevant to gender roles.  Society frowns upon any idea that does not meet its norms and “brainwashes” school children of its biases, in this case gender bias.  I believe it is highly important to snap out of society’s hold and become aware of how much we say to ourselves or aloud “That is impossible” or “There is no way I could do that.”  When we become aware of the influence society has created over us without even realizing it, even its unconscious hold, I hope many realize how wonderful the young girl is to still have a limitless imagination and truly endless dreams before her and that it must be preserved regardless of society’s attempt at conformity.

Twenty & Troubled

The twenties bring with it some sort of entitlement, a feeling that you are now an adult and can do anything you please.  You feel on top of the world!  A feeling that feeds off the thrill of life itself.  I can tell you first-hand, you can do anything, just be prepared for the new responsibility that will follow and the trouble that you open yourself up to.

When I finally got to college, I was blown away.  This was the place for me.  I have always been an impulsive, act first, think later, kind of girl…and nothing actually changed.  My party girl mentality grew to a new level.  I could go out every weekend, blow my money on bottles upon bottles, and get through classes the next day.  I was skating by, getting into trouble with alcohol here and there but no big deal, right?

WARNING: I would have never thought my life would change in the direction it did or force me to reevaluate what I was doing, but that’s exactly what happened.  I found myself in some trouble shortly before my twentieth birthday that forced me to find some direction in life.  Step back from the party girl lifestyle and ask myself what I wanted out of life for myself.

In the beginning of October, I did something that we women should never EVER do…I drank my feelings away over a guy.  I know, stupid right?  But if you have any feeling to do so, read on and learn about the consequences before you act.  I learned it the hard way after finding myself in a little trouble and I’m still paying for it; but you don’t have to.

So I’m a girl, we get guy crazy and attached when we shouldn’t.  I have always considered myself a pretty independent person, never getting caught up in too much of the guy drama until I met this one kid the first week of college.  He was two years older than me, but we immediately hit it off.  I was down at his townhouse more than I was in my own dorm that first year of college.  We had plenty ups and downs, but we always seemed to work things out and I had never felt the same way with any other guy.  Throughout the summer, I’d take a drive up to see him often and we could just lie in bed all day and talk and there was just a connection.

He stayed home the next year, but school was actually closer to his house so I was excited to get back up to college.  I spent the first night down at his house, and then a few other nights into September.  In my mind, everything was going well, but one night, he texted me while I was at a party saying we should stop and all this crap that I deserve better than him.  Side note to any guys that happen to be reading this…saying we deserve better does not make us feel any better; that’s for us to decide, not you!

Of course I was upset and had to leave the party and go back crying to my best friend.  It was a very rough month as I missed him a lot and it ended so suddenly and I felt completely blindsided.  Then came his birthday, early October, a pretty close one year mark of our hooking up; this meant trouble.  I knew it in the back of my mind and I told my friends I was just going to drink the day away.  Well I can tell you that’s exactly what happened.  I started off with some Calico, moved on to a fresh box of wine, and when I woke up the next morning, everything was gone…but the next morning was not as consequential as was the night before.

There are a lot of black spots from the night before, gaps in time I cannot recall even with the help of people I was with, but from what I can remember…It was a Tuesday night because the next  day I was leaving for fall break.  We started drinking unusually early, but were just sitting around talking.  I slammed down some Calico, and a bit into the box of wine I go black, and that’s where the trouble begins…

After talking to people the next day, I was apparently going around like a desperate girl, crying over this guy and spilling everything I felt for him…I guess you could tell what was on my mind…I was even talking to his cousin who had no idea about the two of us, so awkward!  But here is the trouble I do remember…

All of a sudden I came into consciousness and I was behind the wheel, something I am completely against and yell at my friends when they drive.  The only thing I could think was to pull over and now.  I swerved off the road into a garden shop and sat there and took a deep breath.  What the hell was I doing??  Then I saw them.  The red and blue flashing lights in my rear view mirror; an immediate sign I was in a hell of a lot of trouble.  I rolled down the window, and he asked me how much I had been drinking that night.  Not sure if I was even able to talk or not, I somehow managed, nothing.

The cop knew as well as I that I was tanked.  That night, with a BAC of .195 I was handcuffed, spent the night driving around in the back of a police car, was read my Miranda Rights, and taken to the hospital for a blood test.  I was in a spot way out of my league and there was no taking anything I had done back.  This bit of trouble was going to haunt me.

Since the trouble I got into that night, I have begun to work through my DUI charges.  It has forced me to think about the direction of my life and where it is headed.  That night, I was portrayed as somebody I am not, and since then, I have been doing everything I can to prove that that is not who I am to many people in my life.  It has been a challenging road and I know it will get harder, but this wake-up call has forced me to sit down and realize what I really want out of life and how to reach my full potential.

I have a new awareness that I want to share with as many as I can.  It still makes me shake when I have friends who go out driving after they were drinking or when my parents drive home from the bar after a few too many drinks.  I’m forced to be in a very serious place right now because I let outside factors control my life.  My two lessons I hope you take from me: Don’t ever drink and drive, there is always an alternative.  And never never NEVER drink because of any guy!  They are not worth the trouble and it forces you to act and be someone you are not.  Learn from my mistakes and move into your twenties trouble free and with a purpose!